For protection we often rely on banks, locks, password codes, credit cards, hiding places and even fighting skills. Yet, like the story of the Emperor’s New Clothes, we often deny ourselves the biggest threat to our own or organization’s wealth (and sanity).
I am talking about the addictive personality.
Here are some examples that I have personally witnessed:
A relative losing her house due to her son’s drug addictions.
(My mother’s house near break-in from harboring the mentioned drug addict.)
An associate losing money from trying to support their drug and video game addict children.
A gym owner whose gambling-addicted girlfriend put his business heavily in debt.
A military party fund that went missing to an alcoholic who had volunteered to look after it.
Rent and investments that have disappeared by trusting a drug addict.
And the list goes on.
I mention this because good health includes financial health.
Now, many people argue that the stigma of addiction is what is driving addicts towards suicide and more destructive behavior. (You will see public signs all over Vancouver stating that drug addicts are also co-workers, relatives, friends and generally nice people.) Well, the point here is to protect YOU and not intellectualize why THEY hurt your financial health. It makes as about as much sense as trying to reason with a grizzly bear or a mad dog. Forget it.
Instead, take note of the following behaviors of the addicted personalities:
They often fluctuated between being sweet and charming and surly and angry.
2. Bursts over-achievement
Some addictive personalities actually perform high in academics, sales and athletics. I personally knew several high-performing martial artists and soldiers who drank heavily and fell into heavy drug use. Addictive types will so great bursts of work or productivity for short periods, giving the impression that they are high performers.
They often make a big display of any minor achievement such as doing volunteering or exercising.
3. Often sick.
4. Frequently take/request time off.
5. Frequent money problems.
They frequently borrow money or ask for pay advances from work.
6. Unethical behavior
They often lie, steal, cheat and degrade others, while co-workers and family will constantly cover up for them.
7. Often smoke
Not always, but most addicts smoke.
8. Tendency towards swearing and violence
9. Gulping alcohol
This is something that I witnessed in the military. The heavy drinkers could never just sip and enjoy a drink. They had to gulp it down. One co-worker would buy six beers at a time and down them one after another before “Happy Hour” was over.
10. Blaming others
If you ever talk to an addictive person, you will hear all about how things are “everyone else’s fault” and all of the psychological and family reasons why they excessively drink, gamble or play video games.
This list is not complete and it might even make the reader squirm a bit if it sounds too personal or “close to home.” The truth is, you are often aware that something is “not quite right” about a co-worker, employee, boss or associate and that you should keep them away from your money, home or business. Sometimes you cannot if you are a co-worker, business partner or spouse. Like martial arts, fighting and military skills, you have to be able to maintain a strong defense and preparation against such people.
It all boils down to trusting your instincts in the first place.