Often times we think that marriage is suppose to be perfect and If it isn’t then it’s time for a divorce. We quickly forget about the vows that we made before God. After being married for over eight years, I look back and think, if I had been given a pre-glance of some of the things that have come up in my marriage, would I have still gotten married. Although these things have actually strengthened my marriage if I knew then what I know now I would have better prepared myself.
“I have learned that marriage is more then a ceremony and more than a diamond ring, a white dress, and a big extravagant wedding, Marriage is a Ministry!”
– Excerpts from “Let Not Man Put Asunder – Marriage is a Ministry” Written by Regina Mincey
Here are 10 questions to ask yourself before you get married. If you answer no to any of these questions you may want to rethink your decision to get married and prepare yourself a little more.
1. If we lose everything we had because of an unwise decision my spouse made, would we still stay married?
2. If my spouse were to get into a bad accident and lose a limb or become disfigured, would we still stay married?
3. If my spouse got arrested and sentenced to several years in prison, would we still stay married?
4. If I found out that my spouse cheated on me, would we still stay married?
5. If I found out that my spouse got us into a large amount of debt without my knowledge and owed several people, would we still stay married?
6. If I found out my spouse contracted AIDs or some other sexually transmitted disease, would we still be married?
7. If I found out that my spouse had other kids that I did not previously know about and we had to financially support them, would we still stay married?
8. If my spouse’s kids or parents had to move in with us, would we still stay married?
9. If my spouse’s job or occupation required much of their time, would we still be married?
10. If I found out my spouse had drinking, gambling, drug or any other addiction problem, would we still be married?
These are some very tough questions but things like this happen to married couples everyday. Although there are so many positive things that come with getting married these are realities and can happen to anybody. Until you can honestly say yes to all of these questions, marriage should not be an option.